How to Make a Woman Happy

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How to make a woman happy

Many men are not clear on how to really make a woman happy – after all we aren’t even from the same planet right? However it might be even easier than you might think. Fasten your belts let the ride begin, happiness is the destination.

Happiness starts with an “A”

It’s okay my spelling is not as bad as you think and when I say “A” I actually mean 3 of them (we’ll check them out soon). The road to a happy relationship is not as complicated, and thankfully not as expensive as most men might believe. There are things that a man in a relationship can give to his partner that are more precious than gold. How to find a woman, or your ideal partner is easier initially and certainly less challenging than nurturing that relationship for the rest of your life. But you can do it, and the “three A’s” is  perfect place to begin, nurturing and sustaining what you’re lucky enough to have.

The three “A’s”

You’re dying to know so let’s get down to it; affection, appreciation and attention. These are not only limited to a woman of course, every relationship could benefit from these, remember the old adage “actions speak louder than words”, well that’s what I’m talking about.

It would however be superficial not to suggest that aren’t differences in how we navigate life, or deal with stress for example and there’s more than just anecdotal evidence out there to back this up. The areas in which we differ extend into the physiological, linguistic and of course the physical.  How a man and a woman differ, might depend on who’s study or who’s point of view you’re subscribing to.

What we can agree on however is that we all have emotional needs, for a lot of guys this is where they might need a helping hand in understanding a woman’s perspective.

Appreciation – understanding comes from listening and finding out your partners needs. This easiest way of doing this is by listening. Emotional connection is vitally important in a healthy relationship, when was the last time you really listened to a woman’s words. I say “words” and not “conversation” because it’s the words, and what’s behind them that hold the key. What does your partner really mean when she says “see you later” or “I’m tired”? Women use more words than most men, but how much do we really pay attention to? It’s worth thinking about.

One of the leading causes of breakup or affairs might stem just from this, it’s a common complaint “he/she doesn’t understand me” or “he never listens”. It’s our job! If we can’t go to our partner with a problem, then who will we go to?

Stay open minded and listen. It could be as simple as talking and listening to your partner’s day.

Attention – Undivided attention. In this day and age you can ask yourself “what the hell is that?” I have to be honest it’s one of my pet peeves when I’m talking to my partner and she’s playing games on her Iphone, or watching a movie on her Ipad. To say the least I get frustrated. There’s nothing more special than when someone stops what they are doing, turns to you and listens. It’s a very special feeling, to know that someone is truly paying attention to what you’re saying. Undivided attention, it’s a rare but beautiful thing, especially when you’re the object of it.

Affection – the third “A”. It’s important not to confuse this with five minutes in the sack while you’re waiting for the washing machine to finish its cycle. Sexy is not a dirty word, nor is desire, if it’s for your partner, it’s important not to lose sight of your partner being a sexy woman, it’s essential to keep that fire burning.

There are many kinds of affection some of which does include “quality time” in the bedroom (sounds better than “sack”). The emphasis here should be on “quality time”, and not just on “time”. Again affection and listening to you’re partner’s needs are intertwined (no pun intended). When did you last explore your lover’s needs and desires? A woman’s body, the human form is a miraculous thing behold, don’t become blind to it. It’s so easy to become selfish, lazy and it’s even easier to lose that gentle caring touch.

The way you speak to you partner, the language we use and more important the tones we use. A word is meaningless and downright destructive, if you’re not saying it in the right way. We all get tired, kids are screaming there’s a bill to pay or stress at work. But it’s important never to lose that love and respect.

The last aspect of this is linked to the first, and that’s touch. A gentle brush across a face, a light kiss on the back of your neck, a hug when you’re feeling cheesed off, holding hands when the weather’s too hot (sweaty hands and all). It shouldn’t be habit or ritual.

I promise you if you think about the “A’s” then your relationship will be grow, be sustained. Money is money, rings cars and all that bling are important, but so are the small things. If you lose the small things you will lose the big things in your relationship. How to love a woman? Simply with all your heart and with your actions.

One of the leading causes of breakup or affairs might stem just from this, it’s a common complaint “he/she doesn’t understand me” or “he never listens”. It’s our job! If we can’t go to our partner with a problem, then who will we go to?

Stay open minded and listen. It could be as simple as talking and listening to your partner’s day.

Attention – Undivided attention. In this day and age you can ask yourself “what the hell is that?” I have to be honest it’s one of my pet peeves when I’m talking to my partner and she’s playing games on her Iphone, or watching a movie on her Ipad. To say the least I get frustrated. There’s nothing more special than when someone stops what they are doing, turns to you and listens. It’s a very special feeling, to know that someone is truly paying attention to what you’re saying. Undivided attention, it’s a rare but beautiful thing, especially when you’re the object of it.

Affection – the third “A”. It’s important not to confuse this with five minutes in the sack while you’re waiting for the washing machine to finish its cycle. Sexy is not a dirty word, nor is desire, if it’s for your partner, it’s important not to lose sight of your partner being a sexy woman, it’s essential to keep that fire burning.

There are many kinds of affection some of which does include “quality time” in the bedroom (sounds better than “sack”). The emphasis here should be on “quality time”, and not just on “time”. Again affection and listening to you’re partner’s needs are intertwined (no pun intended). When did you last explore your lover’s needs and desires? A woman’s body, the human form is a miraculous thing behold, don’t become blind to it. It’s so easy to become selfish, lazy and it’s even easier to lose that gentle caring touch.

The way you speak to you partner, the language we use and more important the tones we use. A word is meaningless and downright destructive, if you’re not saying it in the right way. We all get tired, kids are screaming there’s a bill to pay or stress at work. But it’s important never to lose that love and respect.

The last aspect of this is linked to the first, and that’s touch. A gentle brush across a face, a light kiss on the back of your neck, a hug when you’re feeling cheesed off, holding hands when the weather’s too hot (sweaty hands and all). It shouldn’t be habit or ritual.

I promise you if you think about the “A’s” then your relationship will be grow, be sustained. Money is money, rings cars and all that bling are important, but so are the small things. If you lose the small things you will lose the big things in your relationship. How to love a woman? Simply with all your heart and with your actions.

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