Sex Addiction Fact or Fantasy?

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Which of these isn’t a real disorder? Choose one: a) sex addiction b) hoarding c) binge eating. Okay I guess the title of my blog gives you a clue. Yep, you know how I think it’s sex addiction.

Okay so now you’re wondering who decides.It’s a good question because oddly enough it sounds very plausible to me, certainly at least as much as hoarding. But there again I’ve never known a hoarder, I mean a sex addict! Getting back to the question.. in the USA it’s the American Psychiatric Association (APA) who decides, and last December they decided not to include sex addiction in their health handbook.

But I guess people can get addicted to anything right? It’s one thing when APA says there’s no such thing, butwhat about the string of famous personalities who’ve either demonstrated this behavior or openly admitted it? So I’m betting all the high end psychotherapists are not writing this one addiction off so quickly. Especially when such big names as Tiger Woods, David Duckovny have demonstrated sex addiction like tendencies. Okay these stars are not official sex addicts, but there are more than a few male celebs who’ve gone on the record as being.Micheal Douglas, was a famous womanizer before our dear Catherine whipped him into shape. Kayne West and Charlie Sheen have both gone on record as being sex addicts – but there again those pair will say almost anything.So far I’ve only mentioned guys, but don’t worry there are some girls too. However most of them like Jennie Ketcham either worked in the adult movie industry before hand, or had suffered with other several addictions, which dubiously coincided with TV shows.

Just how many people are addicts? This is just a weird coincidence I promise you, but I’m writing this article at a hotel, in Hong Kong that charges $50 dollars for using the internet, for which I’m too mean to pay. But from earlier research, I found the estimates in the UK are that 6% of a population is sex addicted and one in five women. Rather selectively I don’t have the numbers for men, but it wouldn’t surprise if it was more.

So just in case, any rich celebs are reading this what are the symptoms? Apparently “recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, sexual urges, and sexual behavior,” we all have these right? But if all these urges last several months then you’re in trouble. Phew.. it’s a relief it doesn’t really exist, because if it did every teenage boy on the globe and several of my friends would have to seek professional help.

On a serious note, addictions of any kind can be very devastating with long last repercussions on the lives of the people it affects. But what are the official symptoms (before the APA changed their mind)? Like other addictions the person is driven to seek out and engage in the act seeking all the benefits and ignoring the negative impacts. According to a BBC Health article, casual sex and general JFK marital behavior are not the only symptoms. More precise ones may include:

  • Excessive use of pornography
  • Feeling worried about the possible behavior
  • Wanting to stop or change your sexual behaviour
  • Feeling unable to stop, despite wanting to
  • Using sex as a way to cope with other problems
  • Needing more sex to get the same fulfillment
  • Feeling very low or guilty after
  • Spending large amounts of time planning or engaging in sex
  • Missing important social events or even work in order to pursue sex

So what’s the treatment? The worst thing would be to find another addiction – it’s sounds kind of funny, but in my personal experience people who are addicted to one thing are often predisposed to other forms as well. With all addictions the first and most important step is admitting to having a problem.

The debate is still open, whether it exists or not, or whether it’s a compulsive behavioral or addiction. However the treatment would involve psychological therapies, behavioral therapies all leading to the person understanding their condition and the consequences.

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A Man Needs a Woman, Does a Woman Need a Man?

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Women are tougher than men! The word is out, it’s official but I guess all you girls knew that already. My two big sisters who bullied me for most of my life knew it too, but that’s another post…

Men who lose their wives have a 30% greater chance of passing into the great beyond! The research was carried out by Professor Javier Espinosa, who led the research project at Rochester Institute of Technology, in the US.

We can’t avoid it obviously. It all happens to us all, unless you spend a million dollars to freeze your head in a dodgy facility. But apparently but the loss of a wife, or I guess a long time partner, leads to an increased chance of mortality for elderly men within 2 years.

Professor Javier Espinosa suggests that after a death of their partner elderly men are less prepared to take care of themselves than women. The reverse situation is quite different. It seems that a man needs a woman, but does a woman need a man? In the reverse situation the statistics don’t play out the same at all. The research didn’t uncover evidence of a statistically increased chance for recently widowed woman to suffer the same fate.

This research raises more questions than it answers. Did they factor in health, or physically differences between women and men? I’m not sure they did, but the Professor did suggest it might be down to a care-giving mechanism. He went further to suggest that this mechanism prepares women to carry on their lives, alone.

His research was carried out on couples who were born between 1910 – 1930. Another interesting yet sad aspect of the research was highlighted. He found that after a loss of a child, a woman was 3 times more likely to suffer mortality. This seemed to be independent of social factors such as education, class or marital status.

For some of us this research may seem to make sense, my experience of parents and grandparents seem to bear this out. My grandmother outlasted a husband and a live-in-partner. Is it possible for us to die of a broken heart? University Clinic of Rostock, Germany suggest this might be the case due to increased level of stress and adrenaline.

Prof Espinosa’s study, co-written by William Evans from the University of Notre Dame, was published in the Economics and Human Biology journal

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3 Women’s Health Risks Men Should Know

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Autoimmune diseases

I was very surprised to find out that this category of illness (Autoimmune diseases) was a particularly diverse one, there are over 80 different kinds (lupus included). Individually they are statistically uncommon, but as a group they are the 4th largest cause of disability in American women. Diabetes also belongs to this group, but as most of us know it’s fairly common.

Autoimmune diseases according to the Department of HHS (Health and Human Services) also includes type 1 diabetes because the whole category of disease attacks the body. Autoimmune diseases are still not very well understood in comparison to some other common health risks. The symptoms can be difficult to pinpoint, which can make diagnosis hard.

Heart Disease

This one of the leading killers for both men and women. It kills more men than women, but it often goes undiagnosed in women. In women its responsible for about 29% of deaths (says, CDC). It’s very widespread and people from all walks of life are affected by it in one way or another. Women in politics such as Hilary Clinton have been touched by it. Heidi Klum and Kim Kardashian have recently joined a campaign to raise awareness. It’s wonder that International Women’s Day hasn’t done more to raise awareness of anyone of these health risks.

People often assume the symptoms of heart disease are chest pains, and that can be. However there are milder ones too, ranging from an ache in the shoulder or jaw, shortness of breath to nausea.

Risks

There’s a whole list of risk factors associated with the disease. The common ones are familiar to us, such as smoking, blood pressure, heredity risks and cholesterol. Weight and diabetes are other important factors, but perhaps the most surprising maybe “ethnic group. “Just like males are more likely to have heart disease, statistically so are some ethnic groups.

According to the CDC you can reduce your chances of heart disease significantly by modifying your lifestyle, that involves makes changes to your diet and exercise.

Breast Cancer

This is a common health risk, and the most common kind of cancer for women next to lung cancer. Some experts suggest although the risks are significant, there’s still a lot of confusion over what to do, or even how to check yourself.

It’s important to educate yourself and not to leave it all down to fear.  There are a lot of options in terms of the treatment, so don’t always assume the worst case scenario – check with your doctor for more information.

Risks

Genes play a huge role in terms of mutation in a woman’s body,  as well as family history and ethnic background. Other factors may include, not having children, early menstruation and too much alcohol.

Final Thought

This is About The Woman’s first post on women health issues, so to be honest I had to do quite a bit of research. I think that all of these health issues deserve a lot more attention than they are currently receiving. Although a lot of great work has been done, there’s more to do and I find it slightly odd that organizations like International Women’s Day for example have chosen to focus on other issues rather than specifically women’s health.

(Please note I’m not a medical expert, this is merely a very rough guide and not medical advice)

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McHale’s Daughter Loses Fight For Life

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The Rockets, Huston Texas are in mourning after the sad news of yet another high profile death in the media. My condolences to Kevin Mchale on the loss of his daughter – Alexander Sasha Mchale who just 23 years old. She finally succumb to the disease “Lupus”. Kevin Mchale , is understandably taking leave from his position,nd it’s still unclear when he will return to the Houston Rockets. The owner of the Rockets has expressed sadness and both support for the family of Alexander Mchale.

What exactly is Lupus?

Under the circumstances I wanted to check this up, as I have only heard of the disease in vague reference before. You might already konw what it is but it’s a terrible “autoimmune disease”. The affects of the disease can obviously be devastating. Lupus which is also called Systemic Lupus Eerythematosus (SLE) can affect any part of the body. The condition often attacks organs, such as the kidney, brain, liver, as well as joints and the blood. The problem starts when the body creates anitbodies that end up attacking its own immune system, normally the body does this against antigens (foreign matter in the body).

How Common is it?

The disease itself is not that common, but it belongs to a group of autoimmune diseases that number over 80. As a group it is fairly common and it also includes, diabetes which is now a very prevalent condition in many developing countries.

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