How Not To Fail At Business With Your Wife

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You never get rich working for someone “probably”. So what’s the alternative? In these tough economic times all the options are on the table. Some people, maybe even you, might be considering going into business for yourself.

A long time ago, I went into business with the woman I loved – my girlfriend, I found out the hard way that wasn’t easy at all. I was very niave about it all to be honest. We did some things right, we did some things wrong.

Right & Wrong

We did our homework. We hooked up with a very experienced company that become our partners. They gave us all the knowledge to build on, along with trouble shooting advice (used that one a lot). Without them it would have been near impossible to start.

A shoestring – we started with way too little, a very skinny shoestring indeed. Get financed properly!

Not the right person – I invested in the wrong person (emotionally & financially). I knew it was the wrong person, but ignored that little voice.. you know what I’m talking about.

No backup – Starting a business in a relationship you’re not convinced about, is a recipe for trouble. It was also her home country and language. She walked away quite comfortable, I was left with my pride.

You don’t have to be like me

The wrong person is the wrong person, that’s independent of gender or relationship. I still believe the woman you love (or man) can make the best business partner. You just have to be smart about it, and there are several strong advantages for doing business him or her and I’m not alone in thinking this. According to the Small Business Administration – out of the 21 million small business in the USA, 90 percent are actually family owned. That’s an astounding display of confidence in family and yes, spouses.

Trust – who’d be better than your wife or husband? You have lived with them, you know them. More importantly your in it together, financially and emotionally.

Due diligence – I didn’t do this, but if you’ve been with your partner for a long time, then you probably have. You know their financial status, character and ability. You won’t be cheated by a fake license on the wall.

Extra mile – they will go that extra mile to keep things afloat in hard times. It’s a cliché but a fairly well known fact, most small business fail within the first year. If it’s a cash problem, one of you can take an extra job for a while, you can tighten your belt, miss a paycheck, live hand-to-mouth, or even take on extra responsibility if your skills allow. 

Together too much I won’t lie to you, this part was tough. But a well adjusted, mature minded, loving couple will find a way around this. Go home, don’t talk about work. Separate home from work, spend time doing fun things. See friends. I hated talking about business, it caused major problems and fights.

Be professional – We all have different skills sets, identifying these and can crucial in making any business better. You and your partner are no different. Assign roles to each other, according to skills and ability. If neither of you can do a job, hirer someone, perhaps a freelancer.

Trust in your partner’s ability – If you give someone a job to do, it means you trust in their ability. Don’t micro manage somebody else’s job, let them get on with it have regular meetings to check on key issues that are affecting your business and performance.

You still have to pay your spouse – I fell into this one too, I was too nice. Without a corporate structure and a HR department it’s difficult to put a value on your partner’s work, it’s very easy to lose perspective. Keep things afloat is the first priority, but you must pay or share with your spouse too.

They’re only human after all.

Outside advice and help – When we had a shortage of skills, knowledge or experience we either consulted with someone or hired someone. That part worked well. If personally you’re have problems find someone who will constructively listen to you both. Bottom line – if your relationship is at risk, look for help.

Goals and missions – with any business you need to determine your companies mission from the go-get. As you company grows you need to keep your eye on the ball, and make sure your achieving what you set out to do.

Remember to forgive, remember why you wanted to start the business together with the woman you love in the first place.

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What a Woman Really Wants a Man To Wear

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Builder’s bum also referred to as the crack of doom in some cultures – is caused by men out of shape wearing overly saggy jeans (normally builders, and male relatives). Of course this never happens to me, but it makes you think what other men’s clothes do women hate

What’s good for thy neighbor. It’s time to be honest, some men could wear could wear shaggy wool pleated trousers, with a illuminous Hawiian shirt and look good. Unfortunately for the rest of us this may not apply.

What makes a woman pause mid sentence, while they allow their smoldering eyes to linger on you, as you ping on their guy radar? With the help of About The woman Let’s find out.

Shoes. Women care about what shoes, we wear almost as much as theirs. Men’s Health polled 800 women on what they like men to wear.

Personally I’m not a loafer kind of guy, but there again I’m not a woman either. Maybe that’s where I’m going wrong because Men’s Health found that 26% of women prefer men who wear them. Nice expensive looking loafers apparently conjure up images of, casual elegance, and a well to do comfortable lifestyle.

Other favorites for a woman include dress boots and wingtip dress shoes, I like both of these very much, it’s just too hot where I am for any kind of boot. Another surprise for me was that running shoes came out pretty high too.

But guys be warned if you want to impress a woman then those leather sandals, rubber flip-flops aren’t going to do it. Sorry guys – time to bin those Crocs.

Denim. I don’t need to be a woman to know denim looks great, on guys and girls. That said that there seems to a limit on what can past muster. Icanseewhatcolorboxershortsyougotonhip-hop-style jeans, are a big saggy failure, and apparently as bad wanna be rocker shredded denim.

Don’t worry there’s still hope! Mens Health found that a woman loves a man who wears vintage style jeans. A whopping 54% of them said that’s when men look the hottest.

Lovely pleated trousers. Lovely pleats are definitely the way to go…damn I forgot! Thought I was back in the 90’s again. All joking aside this is the 21st century and apparently pleats remind a woman of unfashionable senile old man! In fact 64% said not hot.

What a woman wants to see is a man in is flat pants (85%), straight legged pants, with a crisp line also came out on top.

Hawaiian Shirts. Hawaii is one of the coolest places on earth, what woman would not want to go there? Hawaiian shirts? That’s completely different, no go girl wants go there.

Offensive T-shirts. Hey guys how are old are you really? Well unless you’re a teenager, drinking your first beer, or on some of kind stag night they ain’t cool. Fat guys try harder or FBI, female body inspector or I support single moms – won’t get the right kind of sparky reaction that the t-shirt guy promised. You’d be better of buying a can of deodorant.

Good luck with impressing the women, I hope you find yourself the subject of that smoldering gaze! By the way I’ve cleaned out my wardrobe no flip-flops, pleated trousers or hip-hop-style jeans for me! I’m off shopping.

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How to Make a Woman Happy

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How to make a woman happy

Many men are not clear on how to really make a woman happy – after all we aren’t even from the same planet right? However it might be even easier than you might think. Fasten your belts let the ride begin, happiness is the destination.

Happiness starts with an “A”

It’s okay my spelling is not as bad as you think and when I say “A” I actually mean 3 of them (we’ll check them out soon). The road to a happy relationship is not as complicated, and thankfully not as expensive as most men might believe. There are things that a man in a relationship can give to his partner that are more precious than gold. How to find a woman, or your ideal partner is easier initially and certainly less challenging than nurturing that relationship for the rest of your life. But you can do it, and the “three A’s” is  perfect place to begin, nurturing and sustaining what you’re lucky enough to have.

The three “A’s”

You’re dying to know so let’s get down to it; affection, appreciation and attention. These are not only limited to a woman of course, every relationship could benefit from these, remember the old adage “actions speak louder than words”, well that’s what I’m talking about.

It would however be superficial not to suggest that aren’t differences in how we navigate life, or deal with stress for example and there’s more than just anecdotal evidence out there to back this up. The areas in which we differ extend into the physiological, linguistic and of course the physical.  How a man and a woman differ, might depend on who’s study or who’s point of view you’re subscribing to.

What we can agree on however is that we all have emotional needs, for a lot of guys this is where they might need a helping hand in understanding a woman’s perspective.

Appreciation – understanding comes from listening and finding out your partners needs. This easiest way of doing this is by listening. Emotional connection is vitally important in a healthy relationship, when was the last time you really listened to a woman’s words. I say “words” and not “conversation” because it’s the words, and what’s behind them that hold the key. What does your partner really mean when she says “see you later” or “I’m tired”? Women use more words than most men, but how much do we really pay attention to? It’s worth thinking about.

One of the leading causes of breakup or affairs might stem just from this, it’s a common complaint “he/she doesn’t understand me” or “he never listens”. It’s our job! If we can’t go to our partner with a problem, then who will we go to?

Stay open minded and listen. It could be as simple as talking and listening to your partner’s day.

Attention – Undivided attention. In this day and age you can ask yourself “what the hell is that?” I have to be honest it’s one of my pet peeves when I’m talking to my partner and she’s playing games on her Iphone, or watching a movie on her Ipad. To say the least I get frustrated. There’s nothing more special than when someone stops what they are doing, turns to you and listens. It’s a very special feeling, to know that someone is truly paying attention to what you’re saying. Undivided attention, it’s a rare but beautiful thing, especially when you’re the object of it.

Affection – the third “A”. It’s important not to confuse this with five minutes in the sack while you’re waiting for the washing machine to finish its cycle. Sexy is not a dirty word, nor is desire, if it’s for your partner, it’s important not to lose sight of your partner being a sexy woman, it’s essential to keep that fire burning.

There are many kinds of affection some of which does include “quality time” in the bedroom (sounds better than “sack”). The emphasis here should be on “quality time”, and not just on “time”. Again affection and listening to you’re partner’s needs are intertwined (no pun intended). When did you last explore your lover’s needs and desires? A woman’s body, the human form is a miraculous thing behold, don’t become blind to it. It’s so easy to become selfish, lazy and it’s even easier to lose that gentle caring touch.

The way you speak to you partner, the language we use and more important the tones we use. A word is meaningless and downright destructive, if you’re not saying it in the right way. We all get tired, kids are screaming there’s a bill to pay or stress at work. But it’s important never to lose that love and respect.

The last aspect of this is linked to the first, and that’s touch. A gentle brush across a face, a light kiss on the back of your neck, a hug when you’re feeling cheesed off, holding hands when the weather’s too hot (sweaty hands and all). It shouldn’t be habit or ritual.

I promise you if you think about the “A’s” then your relationship will be grow, be sustained. Money is money, rings cars and all that bling are important, but so are the small things. If you lose the small things you will lose the big things in your relationship. How to love a woman? Simply with all your heart and with your actions.

One of the leading causes of breakup or affairs might stem just from this, it’s a common complaint “he/she doesn’t understand me” or “he never listens”. It’s our job! If we can’t go to our partner with a problem, then who will we go to?

Stay open minded and listen. It could be as simple as talking and listening to your partner’s day.

Attention – Undivided attention. In this day and age you can ask yourself “what the hell is that?” I have to be honest it’s one of my pet peeves when I’m talking to my partner and she’s playing games on her Iphone, or watching a movie on her Ipad. To say the least I get frustrated. There’s nothing more special than when someone stops what they are doing, turns to you and listens. It’s a very special feeling, to know that someone is truly paying attention to what you’re saying. Undivided attention, it’s a rare but beautiful thing, especially when you’re the object of it.

Affection – the third “A”. It’s important not to confuse this with five minutes in the sack while you’re waiting for the washing machine to finish its cycle. Sexy is not a dirty word, nor is desire, if it’s for your partner, it’s important not to lose sight of your partner being a sexy woman, it’s essential to keep that fire burning.

There are many kinds of affection some of which does include “quality time” in the bedroom (sounds better than “sack”). The emphasis here should be on “quality time”, and not just on “time”. Again affection and listening to you’re partner’s needs are intertwined (no pun intended). When did you last explore your lover’s needs and desires? A woman’s body, the human form is a miraculous thing behold, don’t become blind to it. It’s so easy to become selfish, lazy and it’s even easier to lose that gentle caring touch.

The way you speak to you partner, the language we use and more important the tones we use. A word is meaningless and downright destructive, if you’re not saying it in the right way. We all get tired, kids are screaming there’s a bill to pay or stress at work. But it’s important never to lose that love and respect.

The last aspect of this is linked to the first, and that’s touch. A gentle brush across a face, a light kiss on the back of your neck, a hug when you’re feeling cheesed off, holding hands when the weather’s too hot (sweaty hands and all). It shouldn’t be habit or ritual.

I promise you if you think about the “A’s” then your relationship will be grow, be sustained. Money is money, rings cars and all that bling are important, but so are the small things. If you lose the small things you will lose the big things in your relationship. How to love a woman? Simply with all your heart and with your actions.

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