Advantages of Dating a Cougar

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Forget about dating a younger woman to find love, how about dating the older, more experienced woman! This is exactly what seems to be happening. But why would a much younger man date a cougar? Simply, there are a lot of reasons to find an older woman attractive, you only have to look towards Hollywood for evidence of this. Of course men need women, but what is it that attracts men to mature cougars, is it simply love?

Experience –A lot of men want to look like the strong one in the family, or other relationships, it’s the we are programed. But think about it are we always that confident or self-assured? Of course not, just like anything else it depends on the individual. One thing is for sure, younger people are often attracted to more experienced people, because the appear to be more confident and in control of their relationships.

Stability – The older woman is mature, experienced and self-reliant. Younger women are often more flighty and changeable. Many men also crave stability in a relationships – it’s not just a woman who might want this. Whether that craving for stability extends to financial, or just the sense of it, depends. The older lady is also less likely to play games, and more likely to know what they want from a relationship.

Looking goodAssuming our hot cougar is a career or successful woman, then they will access to beautiful places to do yoga, or stylish gyms and even plastic surgeons. Okay that sounds a little excessive, but the point I’m trying to make is that the modern woman, has lifestyle choices that enable them to keep looking good. It’s not just for the Hollywood elite.

SuccessfulRealistically most men are not looking for a Demi Moore, or any other hot celeb cougars and they don’t have to. The world we live in presents men with plenty of opportunities to find a mature, sexy, successful woman. It’s never been better for women as business or political leaders, the CEO of the New York Times is Jill Abramson, Chritine Lagarde head of the IMF, and Indra Noovi at PepsiCo and I’m just scratching the surface. Politics and self made women also top the Forbes list of powerful people. But you don’t have to date a Forbes list woman either, there are plenty of successful professionals from accountants to doctors everywhere.

Broaden your horizonsBeing with an older woman or man can have it’s own advantages. Take Demi Moore, would Ashton Kutcher ended up on CBSTwo and a Half Men” without the help of Demi? Correct me if I’m wrong but I honestly only remember him in really very bad rom-coms before that. According to New York Post last year recently she took her new love Vito Schnabel to India for a celebrity birthday party. Perhaps she’s changed again. It’s hard to keep track of her relationships. But think about it, what a trip that must have been! He would have been knee deep in a cool place thats oozing with culture, surrounding by the elite and famous. What experience that would have been. It certainly would have broadened all kinds of horizons.

If we are being honest people come together for many reasons, sometimes people will voice them, sometimes not. What is love? It’s different for everyone I think, but one things for sure it’s not easy to find and when cupid strikes what can we do? We should not let age, race or class get in the way that’s for certain. But we should love and not give up on those relationships.

There’s an old Hindu saying goes something like this – there’s many paths to the top of the mountain, the person wasting their time is the man running around the mountain telling others they are taking the wrong path. I agree.

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If Only Santa Was a Woman – Unwanted Gifts

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Christmas friend or foe, either way it’s gone for another year. But what’s left? Big stomachs, ruined bank accounts, headaches, screaming kids that don’t want to go back to school, more than a few unwanted gifts, and that’s just me! So how about the rest of the world? But seriously what do you do?

Why do we even buy presents in the first place? Guys will buy a gift for a woman they love and other people will buy fabulous gifts which are loaded down with good intentions. But what is it? Guilt, pressure, love or just simply a case of keeping up with the Joneses? One thing for certain, the original religious concept has become somewhat neglected, forgotten or even shunned by popular opinion. Even when we do remember the genesis of the idea, it’s molded into plastic and sold as an action figure.

What about all those gifts we don’t want? The advertisements, pressure from colleagues, commercials for credit cards and loans offer no advice. All these tools of commercialism only point in one direction, and that’s towards the checkout. There are however a few shining lights out there from the odd individual, to the online business. Some of these offer useful solutions to the overdose of unwanted presents.

Not everybody is out to make a quick buck from our problems, according to a story by Reuters there’s actually a pretty cool shop in Slovenia which opened just in time for Christmas.  The idea behind the shop is simple yet important.  Basically if you don’t like a gift then simply change it for one you like.  To quote the shop owner “people get and give too many present nowadays” and I think the shop owner is 100% right.

In some cultures especially in China cash really is king when it comes to gifts. Yes you could say it’s a cold, perhaps even an unthoughtful kind of gift – but there’s no denying its versatility.

Gift cards are increasingly popular gifts, I especially like them when it comes to kids. As opposed to cash, it allows you moderate control on what they kids will blow their money on. But these sentiments maybe the thing’s biggest downfall. What happens when you get a gift to a shop you stylistically have nothing in common with? What are your options if you have a gift card you don’t like, can you take it back to the shop in question and get the cash? Not likely, at least not in that shop. But there are ways according to The Daily Beast.

Cash back sites – the middle man will take a cut!

Giftcards.com, will assess the cash back value, mail you a check or even transfer funds via paypal. Gift Card Granny, it’s a smiliar variation on the above, it scans sites that will give you the most value for you card.Just be prepared to make a small loss on the value of the gift card.

Then you have old faithful – Ebay. There’s always loads of people who are wanting to get their hands on a bargain. But you will have to prepared to sell for a lesser amount, but it’s better than being stuck with a card you hate.

Other options

Gift card rescue, works with Amazon, you get a bonus 5 percent for changing it too an Amazon gift card. Cardpool, works much the same way.

Charities can benefit too. Plastic Jungle allows you to donate the cash on the card to a worthy charity, its aligned with a few such as Red Cross. Plastic Jungle rather cunningly allows you add air miles as well, in cooperation with United Airlines.

Traditional gifts

If the gift is a more traditional kind of gift you can deal with it in similar ways. You could try holding a swap party. People rewrap the gifts they don’t want, and give them to someone else – of course they ran the risk of getting disappointed twice. Or you could do it the boring way and not wrap them – an episode of The office springs to mind. Just make sure things are of a similar value!

Returning stuff to the stores can be an option. It depends on the store of course, not all stores have equal policies on returning gifts. Just check the policies for online and locations for shops. But of course if it’s given to you then you might have little choice, you’re going to have to roll with the punches.

Re-gifting, I have done this and felt horrible about it. But that doesn’t mean you have to. In my case I had to go back overseas and didn’t have the luggage space, so I off loaded the gift and saved time, and money (but it still didn’t feel right). Although seriously why not? I think the key issue is, to choose more carefully than the person who you gifted it to you in the first place. The lucky person might appreciate it more than you did.

Donate it! Just like the gift cards, donating something can be a rewarding experience and in my book a much nicer feeling option than just simply re-gifting. I have a friend who just a few years ago, gave 100’s of man sized teddy bears to a load of kids that needed a bit of happiness in their lives – although in this case they were just extra teddies from the factory. But honestly the kids didn’t care about how they got them, they were happy just the same.

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Paparazzi vs Anne Hathaway 2:1

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Hollywood’s sweetheart Anne Hathaway’s wedding to Adam Shulman, was perfect friends and family were all there, the kind of wedding any woman would dream about. The wedding planers had done the perfect job. There really was only one problem, yes that’s right wedding crashers and I’m not talking about the movie with Vince Vaughan. You’re probably way ahead of me, and you’re right. I’m talking about the beloved, ever present, yet necessary paparazzi.

Why do I say necessary? Well if you remember the Diana incident several holier than thou celebs jumped on the paparazzi bashing band wagon, and did vehemently in public – which was covered rather ironically by the paparazzi. However it appears that even the paparazzi have feelings because after the event several of crusading stars, failed to get any newspaper attention for their, movies, bust-ups and premiers – the paparazzi boycotted them.

Back to Anne Hathaway. She had no such problem for her wedding as helicopter whizzed overhead, loaded with paparazzi. So we can call that 1:0 to the paparazzi.

But Anne Hathaway was not finished. She announced on David Letterman’s Late Show that she was incredibly angry and frustrated, as they’d tried very to avoid that very situation. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned – she wanted nothing better than to give the paparazzi the finger – can you imagine that! It would have been way better than any scene in her Bride Wars movie. Good sense prevailed, when Adam her hubby, advised against it, according to Dave’s interview.  Then a clever insider came up with the idea to steal the paparazzi’s thunder. They sold authorized pictures to a magazine and donated the proceeds to a support a Gay Charity Group. Very cunning indeed. Anne Hathaway 1, Paparazzi 1 – it’s looking like a draw, but the game’s not over.

If you have been reading the news yesterday and today, you would have seen the video interview of Anne with Dave. Yep, that’s the one, Anne is giving the paparazzi a belated two handed two fingered – up your’s. That showed the paparazzi! They won’t mess with feisty Anne again! Wrong!

Anne is being critically acclaimed and looks a very strong contender to receive and an Academy Award for her role of the emaciated Fantine, in Les Miserables film. As she arrived at the Ziegfeld Theatre wearing her bondage inspired dress, she had the ultimate dress malfunction happened (no photo provided). She stepped out of her SUV, she showed a lot too much leg and not enough underwear to all her Les Miserable fans. In fact there wasn’t any underwear, which was the crux of the problem.

It wasn’t all bad news though. Her friends were there – the paparazzi. The ever vigilant paparazzi, displayed their characteristic determination, and dedication in documenting every single embarrassing moment of the celeb lifestyle (and sell it!). Then bingo!

Final score 2:1 to the paparazzi! But the celeb soccer arena that’s called Hollywood, has many teams and even more players. There are sure to be more close games and re-matches and cries of fowl play. Just keep an eye out for the flashing cameras and for the les miserables caught on film.

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Anne Hathaway in Focus

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Anne Hathaway in my opinion is probably the most beautiful woman in Hollywood today. She has even been rated as one the Hottest Stars Under 25 back in Teen People Magazine in their June 2002 issue.

Her Early Career

Hathaway is called Annie by her friends and by all who know her best. Annie was born in Brooklyn, New York she studied acting at the Paper Mill Playhouse. Although Halthaway appeared in many plays as a youth, she first grabbed the attention of executives at Miramax when she was playing Megan Green, on the TV series Get Real. She was bold enough even then to turn down a three picture deal with Miramax because she wasn’t happy with the scripts. However it wasn’t until a starring role in The Princess Diaries (2001) opposite Julie Andrews that the offers for movies came flying in. She has recently said in an interview with Glamour magazine:

I was labeled a good girl, and for the first eight years of my career I had to fight to get any other kind of role. But I like fighting for a job, actually. Once you get it, you feel like you’ve emerged victorious from the scrap and you’re like, “OK, this one’s mine.

Her Movies

She was in Broke Back Mountain (2005)! I’m a big movie nut and although I’m a fairly late comer in terms of being a Anne Hathaway admirer, how did I miss it! I’ve only seen the movie 4 times. There’s 4 points here, the topic was very distracting, secondly the cinema photography (actually the best part) was stunning. The late Keith Ledger totally stole the show in terms of acting, or did he? I might be wrong, but was Anne Hathaway was pretty unrecognizable as Jake Gyllenhaal’s wife?  The next year she played another strong role in The Devil Wears Prada (2006), which actually is her best in my opinion. Later roles included Becoming Jane and bit later Rachel Getting Married (2008), which she won an Oscar nomination.

Personal Life

Controversy has followed Anne Hathaway though with her ex-boyfriend Raffaello Follieri was arrested for fraud. Anne was never suspected of anything although allegedly the FBI did take her diary and recently jewelry given to her by Follieri was auctioned by the US Marshalls. Making her next movie Love and Other Drugs with her Broke Back co-star Jake Gyllenhaal helped her get through the tough time. These days Anne is happily married to Adam Shulman, a famous jewelry designer. Anne who was previously a cynic of marriage is loving her new life, and when asked by Glamour – what changed her mind, she replied:

Him. I would never have gotten married if it weren’t for him. He’s a good man. He’s beyond intelligent. He loves fearlessly.”

And..

“But there’s not a lot of positive information out there about marriage. It’s the old ball and chain, the seven-year itch, the divorce rate. Still, my parents have been married for 30 years; his parents have been married for 40 years. Mine had great moments and some really sh-tty moments. But they couldn’t have been married to anyone else, and they make each other better.”

Timeless Beauty?

How beautiful a woman is Anne Hathaway? Is she a timeless beauty comparable to such a woman as Audrey Hepburn? Perhaps.. at least I think so. Although Hepburn and Hathaway come from very different backgrounds – Hepburn was British, and lived Belgium there are some other striking similarities. Both unarguably elegant and beautiful, Hepburn left the whole Hollywood scene do focus on her international charity work – recently Hathaway has become the face of One Billion Rising. When talking to Glamour magazine she said:

It’s hard to wrap my head around the fact that a billion women have been raped or beaten, When I was in college, I’d heard that one in four women would be raped, and I thought, God, that means I must know someone who was raped. Sure enough, I found out a week later that a friend had been. A billion is too big because one is too big.”

Vogue in 2010, Hathaway did a stunning photo shoot which mirrored many of Hepburn most iconic images. If you haven’t seen them you must take a look.

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Her public roles have not always gone so smoothly. Her the 83rd Academy Awards performance with James Franco totally bombed in front of 35 million viewers. Although the blame was mostly directed at the lack luster Franco.

The trend continued into her next atrocious ensemble the rom-com Valentine’s Day, as well as the comedy Bride Wars. It was later named as being one of the 10 worst chick flicks by Time Magazine. Other critical performances included An Education,  where Hathaway’s mangled British accent drew fire.

The Dark Knight Rises – fanboys of Batman were unsure at the news of Hathaway in the role of Catwoman but she blasted the role, and made it her own. She stood toe to toe with her more famous male co-stars, and shone. She displayed the wiliness and toughness the role needed while being demure and as sexy as Michelle Pfeiffer.  Bringing her critical acclaim from all corners of the industry.

Anne Hathaway may not be popular with everyone, and she has had her fair share of both fans and detractors. But she looks sure to stay, and continues to shine – she is a strong competitor for the next an Academy Awards  for her role in Les Miserables.

Demi Moore The Cougar?

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Demi Moore is apparently dating another younger man 26 years old! Is she alone? Valerie Gibson, a famous Canadian celebrity who wrote for the Toronto Sun newspaper as their their sex and relationship columnist. It’s said she was the first to have coined the phrase “cougar” which refers to the older woman dating the younger man. Gibson herself has been married 5 times, the last time was to a man years younger than her.

So what do we do? Do we shame, ignore them or congratulate them for still being sexy, attractive empowered women? Are we even being fair in regards to this topic,  I pretty sure Bruce Willis has dated much younger women. It’s normal such a normal thing in Hollywood for man to date the younger woman, it’s so normal that people hardly talk about it. Double standards? I say hell yes! But what do you think?

Historical cougars

So why are young guys even dating older cougars, in the first place? What is it about the woman who’s a little older? Possibly there’s too much competition for younger girls? Possibly because the older successful man is snapping up the younger woman at every opportunity, at least it’s seem this way with the celebs and elite.  I’m not sure it’s even fair to be focusing on the cougars themselves, it does take two to tango afterall. Perhaps it’s the fashion for the younger man to date the older woman. Maybe it’s the guys who chooses to hunt for the older beautiful woman and not the other way around.

Younger men have been attracted to powerful women since long before we came up modern day concepts of right or wrong.  Such cougars included, Elizabeth I, Catherine the Great, more recently Elizabeth Taylor and even a goddess – guess that would be the ultimate cougar catch. I wouldn’t want to be the young buck dumping Aphrodite, I bet she would do than just divorce you and take the dog. See full article.

Why now?

So what’s happening why does it seem to be a bit of trend at the moment? For decades women have been fighting for more equality, and since the 1950, 60’s, and 70’s the woman’s lifestyle, image and life choices have improved immensely. But what has changed? Women have better jobs, they have  equality, both in the law and in society’s eyes. Women’s health has also be brought into the fore of the  public’s consciousness.  Divorce rates in most western countries have sky rocketed since the 1980’s, you could say that the fall of religion is to blame, or even the stresses of modern life. However I’d like to thing a big contributing factor would be the increased ability of the woman to make her own marital choices, and to seize their own fate, free of public judgement or contempt.

Whatever lead to the present is one huge question and I’m not an expert. But what I know is that there are a lot of women over 40 who are empowered, wealthy or financially stable. A young woman is drawn to an older strong man. So why can’t the same be said of a young man to a  mature empowered woman? There’s simply no reason at all. Gone are they days where a divorced, or the widowed woman is expected to just fade away and become old maids. So what so special about the woman now? Nothing really but they do have the same rights to go out, and do the same stupid, smart things or even questionable things that a man can do. Although this is not the case in every country, but women have earned the right to be a cougar, if that’s what they want to do. Life’s too damn short.

I say power to Demi! I just hope she takes a bit more care of her heart and mind this time. I also wish good luck to whoever she dates. Demi is a talented actress, a mother and incredibly beautiful woman. She in many ways is the ultimate cougar, am I jealous? Maybe just a little.

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Halle Berry’s Gabriel Can’t See Kid

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Gabriel Abury’s bad luck held out today as he got squashed again, this time in the court. Gabriel had hoped to get his restraining order lifted, but the Judge refused according to TMZ. Originally he had hoped to get it lifted on the 28th but now looks more likely on the 29th.

In another twist Gabriel has referred to Halle Berry as being his ex-wife in court. The information came out in the open according to Extra after he submitted court documents on Monday. This could well be an attempt to rub salt into the wounds, as the relations between him, Halle Berry and Olivier Martinez look set to sour further. See the full story at here.

This all comes days after a vicious assault that left Gabriel hospitalized. Both Gabriel and Olivier are pointing the fingers of blame at each other.

Meanwhile Christmas is coming, and it should be one to remember, for the Berry bunch.

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How to Make a Woman Happy

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How to make a woman happy

Many men are not clear on how to really make a woman happy – after all we aren’t even from the same planet right? However it might be even easier than you might think. Fasten your belts let the ride begin, happiness is the destination.

Happiness starts with an “A”

It’s okay my spelling is not as bad as you think and when I say “A” I actually mean 3 of them (we’ll check them out soon). The road to a happy relationship is not as complicated, and thankfully not as expensive as most men might believe. There are things that a man in a relationship can give to his partner that are more precious than gold. How to find a woman, or your ideal partner is easier initially and certainly less challenging than nurturing that relationship for the rest of your life. But you can do it, and the “three A’s” is  perfect place to begin, nurturing and sustaining what you’re lucky enough to have.

The three “A’s”

You’re dying to know so let’s get down to it; affection, appreciation and attention. These are not only limited to a woman of course, every relationship could benefit from these, remember the old adage “actions speak louder than words”, well that’s what I’m talking about.

It would however be superficial not to suggest that aren’t differences in how we navigate life, or deal with stress for example and there’s more than just anecdotal evidence out there to back this up. The areas in which we differ extend into the physiological, linguistic and of course the physical.  How a man and a woman differ, might depend on who’s study or who’s point of view you’re subscribing to.

What we can agree on however is that we all have emotional needs, for a lot of guys this is where they might need a helping hand in understanding a woman’s perspective.

Appreciation – understanding comes from listening and finding out your partners needs. This easiest way of doing this is by listening. Emotional connection is vitally important in a healthy relationship, when was the last time you really listened to a woman’s words. I say “words” and not “conversation” because it’s the words, and what’s behind them that hold the key. What does your partner really mean when she says “see you later” or “I’m tired”? Women use more words than most men, but how much do we really pay attention to? It’s worth thinking about.

One of the leading causes of breakup or affairs might stem just from this, it’s a common complaint “he/she doesn’t understand me” or “he never listens”. It’s our job! If we can’t go to our partner with a problem, then who will we go to?

Stay open minded and listen. It could be as simple as talking and listening to your partner’s day.

Attention – Undivided attention. In this day and age you can ask yourself “what the hell is that?” I have to be honest it’s one of my pet peeves when I’m talking to my partner and she’s playing games on her Iphone, or watching a movie on her Ipad. To say the least I get frustrated. There’s nothing more special than when someone stops what they are doing, turns to you and listens. It’s a very special feeling, to know that someone is truly paying attention to what you’re saying. Undivided attention, it’s a rare but beautiful thing, especially when you’re the object of it.

Affection – the third “A”. It’s important not to confuse this with five minutes in the sack while you’re waiting for the washing machine to finish its cycle. Sexy is not a dirty word, nor is desire, if it’s for your partner, it’s important not to lose sight of your partner being a sexy woman, it’s essential to keep that fire burning.

There are many kinds of affection some of which does include “quality time” in the bedroom (sounds better than “sack”). The emphasis here should be on “quality time”, and not just on “time”. Again affection and listening to you’re partner’s needs are intertwined (no pun intended). When did you last explore your lover’s needs and desires? A woman’s body, the human form is a miraculous thing behold, don’t become blind to it. It’s so easy to become selfish, lazy and it’s even easier to lose that gentle caring touch.

The way you speak to you partner, the language we use and more important the tones we use. A word is meaningless and downright destructive, if you’re not saying it in the right way. We all get tired, kids are screaming there’s a bill to pay or stress at work. But it’s important never to lose that love and respect.

The last aspect of this is linked to the first, and that’s touch. A gentle brush across a face, a light kiss on the back of your neck, a hug when you’re feeling cheesed off, holding hands when the weather’s too hot (sweaty hands and all). It shouldn’t be habit or ritual.

I promise you if you think about the “A’s” then your relationship will be grow, be sustained. Money is money, rings cars and all that bling are important, but so are the small things. If you lose the small things you will lose the big things in your relationship. How to love a woman? Simply with all your heart and with your actions.

One of the leading causes of breakup or affairs might stem just from this, it’s a common complaint “he/she doesn’t understand me” or “he never listens”. It’s our job! If we can’t go to our partner with a problem, then who will we go to?

Stay open minded and listen. It could be as simple as talking and listening to your partner’s day.

Attention – Undivided attention. In this day and age you can ask yourself “what the hell is that?” I have to be honest it’s one of my pet peeves when I’m talking to my partner and she’s playing games on her Iphone, or watching a movie on her Ipad. To say the least I get frustrated. There’s nothing more special than when someone stops what they are doing, turns to you and listens. It’s a very special feeling, to know that someone is truly paying attention to what you’re saying. Undivided attention, it’s a rare but beautiful thing, especially when you’re the object of it.

Affection – the third “A”. It’s important not to confuse this with five minutes in the sack while you’re waiting for the washing machine to finish its cycle. Sexy is not a dirty word, nor is desire, if it’s for your partner, it’s important not to lose sight of your partner being a sexy woman, it’s essential to keep that fire burning.

There are many kinds of affection some of which does include “quality time” in the bedroom (sounds better than “sack”). The emphasis here should be on “quality time”, and not just on “time”. Again affection and listening to you’re partner’s needs are intertwined (no pun intended). When did you last explore your lover’s needs and desires? A woman’s body, the human form is a miraculous thing behold, don’t become blind to it. It’s so easy to become selfish, lazy and it’s even easier to lose that gentle caring touch.

The way you speak to you partner, the language we use and more important the tones we use. A word is meaningless and downright destructive, if you’re not saying it in the right way. We all get tired, kids are screaming there’s a bill to pay or stress at work. But it’s important never to lose that love and respect.

The last aspect of this is linked to the first, and that’s touch. A gentle brush across a face, a light kiss on the back of your neck, a hug when you’re feeling cheesed off, holding hands when the weather’s too hot (sweaty hands and all). It shouldn’t be habit or ritual.

I promise you if you think about the “A’s” then your relationship will be grow, be sustained. Money is money, rings cars and all that bling are important, but so are the small things. If you lose the small things you will lose the big things in your relationship. How to love a woman? Simply with all your heart and with your actions.

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